Purity means honoring God with your body and mind because you know you belong to Him. (1 Cor 6:19)

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One of the hardest commands many Christians find challenging to accept is the one about saving sex for marriage. This ‘rule’ seems like God is out to ruin their fun and restrict their freedom. However, the Bible says Jesus came to set us free. Free from guilt, condemnation and the consequences of sin.

The problem is that the world is chasing after a fake form of freedom and in the end not finding fulfillment at all. To them, freedom means living without boundaries and allowing their feelings to guide their actions.

God calls us to live by faith – and choosing to live pure in a sex-crazed culture requires just that! When we say ‘yes’ to purity we are saying ‘yes’ to:

– honoring God with our bodies.
– intimacy the way He designed it.
– freedom from natural consequences that come from sex outside of marriage.

There are three main consequences to going outside God’s boundary for sex. They fall into three categories: physical, emotional and spiritual.


When asked what they’d include as a physical cost to sex outside of marriage, majority of teens would quickly respond with pregnancy and STDs.  This makes sense because:

Nearly 750,000 girls age 15-19 experience an unplanned pregnancy in the United States each year. 1

Nearly half of the 19 million new STDs each year are among young people aged 15–24 years. 2

Unfortunately, teens rarely think beyond the immediate to the long-lasting and wide-ranging “domino effects” of their sexual choices.  If they understood these consequences I believe more of them would choose to live differently.

Of those mothers that choose to raise their child, less than half ever graduate from high school. Of those who do graduate, less than 2% earn a college degree by the time they are 30. 3

40% of children are born to unmarried mothers. 4

According to the 2009 U.S. Census, the poverty rate for single parents was 37.1%. The rate for married couples with children was 6.8%.  Being raised in a married family reduced a child’s probability of living in poverty by about 82%. 5

The father is personally impacted as well!  A significant portion of his income will go toward child support the next 18 years of the child’s life. 6

Research also shows that children born or raised in single-parent families are at higher risk for a variety of social ills, including welfare dependency, academic difficulties and criminal activity!


Did you know there are two brain chemicals released during sexual activity that are designed to emotionally bond a man and woman together forever?!  The main chemical in the man is vasopressin and for the woman it is oxytocin.  This is a God created “super-glue” intended to strengthen and deepen a marriage relationship over a lifetime.  When sex happens outside of marriage, this bond is torn apart when the couple breaks up – causing severe emotional damage.  That’s why countless young people experience a wide range of emotions after breaking up from a sexual relationship.  Emotions like: worry, fear, regret, mistrust, suicide and depression.

The link between teen sexual activity and suicide/depression is quite alarming:

Sexually active girls are more than 3x likely to be depressed than girls who are not.

Boys who are sexually active are more than 2x as likely to be depressed as those who are not. 7

Sexually active girls are nearly 3x more likely to attempt suicide than girls who are not sexually active.

Sexually active teenage boys are 8x more likely to attempt suicide than boys who are not. 7


We rarely hear much about this one Y-E-T it is the most dangerous. Why? Because this impacts the most important relationship you have – your relationship with God.  Josh McDowell lays out in his book Why True Love Waits, four spiritual consequences that come from sex outside of marriage.  They are:.

Sex outside of marriage harms the body and is a sin (1 Cor 6:18).

When you break a command, God’s perfect nature requires that He disciplines you.

Ongoing and unconfessed sin grieves God and separates you from Him.

You give a poor testimony of who Jesus is and what it means to follow Him.

Purity = Freedom

The world will incessantly bombard you with the lie that freedom is found by living without boundaries and instead following your feelings.  True freedom only comes from trusting in God and depending on the truth of His Word.

Living sexually pure is a gateway to freedom.  Freedom to:

  discover who God made YOU to be – your unique strengths, gifts, abilities.

  join Him in the work He’s prepared for you.

  develop healthy relationships that honor God.

  one day enter marriage without much “baggage” and regret.

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1.  The Guttmacher Institute, “Facts on Induced Abortion in the United States,” 2008.
2.  Weinstock H, Berman S, Cates W. Sexually transmitted diseases among American youth: incidence and prevalence estimates, 2000.  Perspectives on Sexual and Reproductive Health 2004;36(1):6-10.
3.  The National Campaign to Prevent Teen and Unplanned Pregnancy, accessed 11-19-2008.
4.  Hamilton BE, Martin JA, Ventura SJ. Births: Preliminary data for 2007. national vital statistics report, web release; vol 57 no 12.  Hyattsville, MD: National Center for Health Statistics. Released March 18, 2009, p. 17.
5.  Calculations based on data from the U.S. Census Bureau, American Community Survey, 2007–2009 data, accessed August 6, 2012
6.  www.ncsl.org/research/human-services/guideline-models-by-state.aspx
7.  Robert E. Rector, Kirk A. Johnson and Lauren R. Noyes, “Sexually Active Teenagers Are More Likely To Be Depressed And To Attempt Suicide,” Heritage Center for Data Analysis, 2003.